School days and hand spankings!

Good day dear readers- hope all of you had a great summer! It certainly didn't start out very nice up here in New England with rain for most of May, June and July, but August and even September have been quite nice!

My bet is that we get an Indian summer this year. Back to school is our current theme of the day, which in the minds of spankos provides memories of naughty girls in plaid skirts and pigtails.

Feel free to follow the link below and watch a cute brunette get her skirt flipped up and panties lowered for some hot correction!

School Days: Cute student being spanked by firm headmaster courtesy of Tnaflix

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To spank or not to spank?

Hello Dear Readers and a wonderful spring Saturday morning to you all!

Watching things closely economically speaking, and believe America is getting a much overdue spanking for it's financial imprudence over the last decade. Hopefully, we can set ourselves straight and recover after this correction, although I'm cautious given the way our Congress and politicians seem to be complicating the mess.

Anyway-- on to our favorite topic - SPANKING! Some of you may have touched on this subject and questioned whether spanking was for your relationship? Is it normal for adult couples to consider such activities? Does engaging in such activities constitute a desire/interest for abusive activities? Would my neighbors approve? How will I know it's right for me?

The answer to these questions are largely subjective - and while we're all wired a bit differently, many of us do find a form of juvenile excitement in spanking a bare behind. Our interests are largely predicated on our level of intent.

For some, spanking is strictly an erotic activity; a playful spank perhaps to get the juices flowing before lovemaking. For them a person who is open to this activity, but not over the top with it, will suffice.

Others, may enjoy a bit more theater with their spanking. They too may also enjoy spanking as a prelude to sex, but by incorporating things like role play, wearing outfits, rituals associated with spanking (positioning, lowering the panties, etc.), they feel more comfortable expressing their spanking fantasies, and require a more astute/practice spanker to satisfy their needs. Spankings can range from playful to moderately disciplinary, and usually bring with it a good bond of trust.

For those interested in incorporating a form of domestic discipline, spanking for real offenses is often the goal. While I view it as the most fulfilling level of spanking, it requires patience, deep trust and commitment/responsibility to follow thru with this sort of activity. It is not infrequent for long term lovers or spouses to explore domestic discipline 'after the honeymoon' phase of the relationship. The reasons for this vary; some say added spark, other say keeping each other in line. It's my personal belief that as we grow with one another, while our love may deepen, we better understand our partners (their strengths and shortcomings), and thru "tough love" we are able to express ourselves as to what behavior we may view as unacceptable or detrimental to the viability of the relationship (often coined 'boundaries'). Of course, this is not to say spanking can revive a badly damaged relationship, but for some- whose relationships have not been irreparably harmed, domestic discipline may provide a useful outlet to mend fences.

If you're considering going bottoms up in a relationship, talk to your mate. Discuss with each other your level of intent. If you're open minded enough, try to network with others who may already include spanking as part of their relationship and see what has worked for them. Today there are many good resources (blogs, websites, etc.) that provide a baseline knowledge of consensual spanking and the many benefits a sore behind can provide.

Cheers!

Hot Spankings - Going out of Business Sale!

Hello Readers- during these difficult financial times, everyone loves a bargain. And right now Jennifer Brooks website HOT SPANKINGS has half off on all spanking related stuff (M/F, F/F, F/M). Everything MUST go-- DVD's currently half off. Sale good until March 30th, 2009!

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Christian Domestic Discipline

I found this site recently and actually enjoyed the more traditional view of Christian marriage.

Here is a brief introduction that seems to mesh well with the concept of Domestic Discipline.

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A domestic discipline marriage is one in which one partner in the marriage is given authority over the other and has the means to back the authority, usually by spanking.

A Christian Domestic Discipline marriage is one that is set up according to Biblical standards; that is, the husband is the authority in the household. The wife is submissive to her husband as is fit in the Lord and her husband loves her as himself. He has the ultimate authority in his household, but it is tempered with the knowledge that he must answer to God for his actions and decisions. He has the authority to spank his wife for punishment, but in real CDD marriages this is taken very seriously and usually happens only rarely. CDD is so much more than just spanking. It is the husband loving the wife enough to guide and teach her, and the wife loving the husband enough to follow his leadership. A Christian marriage embodies true romance and a Christian man a true hero.

Though this seems unusual in today's United States, this kind of marriage has been practiced throughout history and is still practiced in many parts of the world today.

Check this site out Traditional Christian Marriage

Hand Spanking- That Personal Touch!

Evening dear readers- warm holiday wishes to all. Thanksgiving ranks with the Fourth of July as one of my favorite holidays. It's a great time for family and friends, good food & spirits- but yet isn't over-commercialized like other US holidays. Although with the way the economy is going, it looks like that might change here in the states. Not necessarily a bad thing!

I've been thinking a bit lately about some of my most memorable spanking experiences. Over the years, I've been blessed to meet a host of enjoyable women who were open to exploring this wonderfully intimate interest. And speaking of intimacy is there anything more wonderfully erotic or deliciously personal than hand spanking a bare behind?

So what makes hand spanking unique?

Hand spanking can be deeply intimate as the hand to ass contact creates a personal connection, often not found with (colder) implements.

When administered properly it not only leaves the spankee with a flaming behind, but those administering a heavy hand share in the heat and tender aftermath (with a stinging palm) of a good spanking session.

The hand can act as an extension of the mind; resolute and swift when the situation may arise.

Hands provide a good (lasting) sting, but do not bring the deep bruising that heavier implements can.

Hands- like behinds, can be very sexy.

A hand spanking can be administered anywhere- in a moments notice-- adding a further element of spontaneity to domestic discipline.

A hand spanking provides a great level of control and accuracy, making it the implement of choice for newbies as well as seasoned spankers.

The hand makes a marvellous slapping sound, and coupled with promises to "be good", this can add a great level of sexual energy to your relationship.

In close, traditional hairbrushes, bath brushes, paddles, slippers can all have their appeal. But nothing tells that flaming bottom you care, like a good firm hand!

Find the perfect stocking stuffers for your naughty lil bare bottom elf here

Spanking for real offenses!

Evening dear readers-- the fall is here and the holidays are soon to follow. Lots of bad economic news lately and while Wall Street and the big banks bear a good portion of the blame, the profligate US consumer could benefit from a good trip over a knee as well.

With this thought in mind, my attention turns to spanking for real offenses. Spanking for real offenses is a steamy endeavor chiefly because it involves a greater mental connection and deeper trust. At its core, spanking for real offenses brings us back to a time when our inappropriate behavior resulted in an authoritative figure (someone whom we knew and/or viewed as a responsible caregiver) taking corrective action to protect us against careless / reckless or even harmful behavior. An erudite schoolteacher with birch in hand, often ridiculed for his quirky conventional mannerisms as was Ichabod Crane in the Legend of Sleepy Hollow.

But spanking for real offenses, can have DEEP emotional roots - as in doing so , we are exposing ourselves, and ultimately conceding to our disciplinarian where improvement needs to be made, and trusting them to follow thru with the task of keeping us honest. As adults many spankos have an elder spanking figure lurking in their past with which to recollect and possibly recreate their secret need to be taken to task from time to time. Such a character need not at all to be physically appealing (often they are not) but rather someone perceived as a 'no nonsense' disciplinarian, viewing their duty of reddening a bottom as part of a days work.

Perhaps you've got a money management problem 0r can't seem to balance your checkbook? Still worse, you may understand you need to quit smoking or don't always stop drinking when the socially acceptable limit has been met? Do you have a curfew? Use foul language, or just simply procrastinate about things?

I'd enjoy hearing from all the ladies or gentleman out there who have been spanked / or have spanked for real offenses, and share their experiences with our readers.



Michael

Spank with care!

Afternoon dear readers- with summer 2008 now in the rear view mirror, I'm finally getting a chance to settle back in and update the blog. Hope everyone had an enjoyable summer-- I know I did.

Over the years, I have been queried by other folks about how to introduce spanking / domestic discipline into their relationship. Quick disclaimer-- I'm no counsellor, but I can share with others what I have found to work well and offer interested parties (the key word here being interested) a chance to incorporate domestic discipline into a healthy functioning relationship.

A special note should be added here. If you're an abusive person by nature, and see spanking as a way to dominate someone and only fulfill your needs, this blog -- and any insight shared here, will likely not suit your taste buds. Similarly, if you've got anger management problems and view violence as a means to achieve any goals, you're advised to abstain from domestic discipline altogether. Stated simply, domestic discipline is NOT about violence or abuse as can be often misconstrued by bullies, the close minded or the uninformed.

So what benefit could domestic discipline-- chiefly bare bottom spanking, offer your relationship? Whether you're a spanker or a spankee, below is a shortlist of reasons which may offer a warm endorsement to those considering bare bottom spanking. ALL of them run parallel to the underlying theme-- spanking is caring. Let's examine some of these thoughts.

Accountability - Holding our loved ones to account is not about reminding them they have failed or screwed up, but rather letting them know you're disappointed because you know they can do better. It is "imperative" to follow the spanking up with sincere words of encouragement and to let your partner know - now that you've addressed the issue, you're confident it won't recur. Accountability seems to be one of the chief reasons many women seek out a spanking gentleman- even if no intimacy aside from spanking may exist in the relationship.

Effective Goal Setting - I view this as a very constructive method of incorporating domestic discipline into a relationship. Most people understand they may need some motivation to start that diet, or to quit smoking- or even study for an upcoming test. The trick is to embrace something constructive/positive/uplifting that will result in happiness and feelings of achievement for both of you. In any relationship, it's always good to be able to share life's victories together.

Setting parameters (the do's and don'ts of a relationship) - Because we're all very different creatures, setting parameters is a broad category and one that should be discussed openly between both parties. Remember the golden maxim with this; good spankers will lead by example here. If you've set parameters with respect to a curfew or destructive language, it would be unfair (and probably ineffective) if you're out partying all night and cursing like a truck driver yourself.

Correcting bad / destructive behaviors - I cannot tell you how many could benefit from this. I have even known a few women that have become so frustrated with their behavior, they are unwittingly begging their boyfriends to spank them. Unfortunately, their plea for a spanking is missed by their mate, and can have emotionally hurting consequences. For some unexplainable reason, many of us may embrace destructive (sabotaging) behaviors which we fully understand may harm the viability of the relationship (Many women know they're doing it when they're doing it). Guys, ultimately women want to know that their mate cares about their relationship and that her man will only let her go 'so far' before taking corrective action to put the relationship back on solid footing.

Spanking is caring folks-- and a healthy dose of domestic discipline within the context of an otherwise constructive relationship, may be just the Rx to strengthen your bond.

Michael